I’d like to start this with an apology. I have, in the past, been active in the promotion of fatphobia. One way I did this was by selling weight loss to people and for that, I have regrets. It’s a false hope, a potentially dangerous undertaking, and it doesn’t help many people in the end.
I continue to get the question, “do you do weight loss”, and I must admit something:
I AM TIRED OF THINKING ABOUT WEIGHT LOSS.
Whether this weight loss is my own or a clients’, honestly I am so over it. There is so much going on in the world. So much that cannot be helped by me micromanaging my calorie intake.
For me, the truth is that my weight has been stable for the last 5 years. It has not budged. This has not been a conscious decision. What has changed is my body fat level, and I think that is, to me, personally more important to my health. And as a side not, when I was several sizes larger, I also weighed twenty pounds less, so take from that what you will. The truth is that I can maintain this weight without even thinking about it, and that is good for my mental health.
Look, there are thousands of personal trainers out there who do weight loss. There are programs with coaches and points and everything you could ever want to convince yourself that this time it will work long-term. But I don’t want you to be counting out single almonds or saving calories or points or agonizing over a piece of birthday cake for the rest of your life. Doesn’t that sound exhausting? I’m exhausted from thinking about weight loss all the time. For me or for others. Don’t you want to do anything else? Have legs strong enough to climb a mountain? Go on a long leisurely bike ride down by the river? Go swimming for hours at the beach with your kid? Have strong arms to plant a whole ass beautiful garden? I don’t believe that health and fitness should be the focus of life. Honestly, one single minute/moment/second could take you from healthy to unhealthy. Health is not everything. It’s especially not the only thing. There’s a lot more to life. Your health and fitness habits should support the rest of your life. They shouldn’t become your life.
What it comes down to is that I don’t want to focus on weight loss. I want to help you build the life you want, supported by fitness. You are not your body. Your body allows you to do the things you desire. What could you achieve if you let go of weight loss?